Grief and Loss

Caring help in Brisbane on dealing with grief

Grief and Loss

Grief and loss are emotions that can strike each person many times during their life. Whether it’s loss of a job, precious possession or coping with the loss of someone that you love, how we cope with the loss is determined by many factors. Grief is a natural way for us to accept the reality of what has occurred.

Some feelings we may experience are sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, loneliness, shock, helplessness, and even relief. 

A funeral director is a person who holds a position unlike any other in the community. They are people whom you call on at a very emotional time. At Tony Hollands Funerals, we can refer, on request, individuals who want counselling or support to either a member of the clergy or a professional counsellor.

What to say to someone grieving?

It's often hard to know just what to say to someone who is grieving. The first step is not to think you must say something to cheer them up. It's perfectly normal for grieving people to feel sad, angry, numb, scared, or lonely.

Saying something like, ‘tell me how you’re feeling’ is simple, but can mean so much to someone who’s grieving. They often just need time to tell their story, someone to talk to and someone who'll let them share their feelings and memories.

Do allow the person to cry and show how they feel, as grief is the same, although we all feel it differently - men and women, boys and girls, young and old.

Don't say, ‘be brave’ or ‘be strong’, as this will encourage grieving people to bottle up their feelings.

Do talk about the person who has died (cultural considerations here). Say their name and be willing to hear about the circumstances of the death. This all helps the reality of the loss to sink in, which is an important part of grieving.

Don't say, ‘I know how you feel’ because we can never know exactly how they feel or fully understand all the things that are part of someone else's grief. Even if you have experienced loss yourself.

Do offer practical help such as buying groceries, minding children, mowing lawns, doing the ironing or cooking meals - not for the days just after the death, but in the months ahead, as this is when the real effects of the death are often being felt.

Don't forget special days like birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc. These can be very lonely when someone special has died. A card or phone call on a day like this could be just what the person needs at that time.

Pre-Arrangements

Pre-arranging a funeral can help alleviate additional stress when a loved one passes away – whether this involves setting out exactly what is to take place, or choosing the location for the service.
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Pre-Arrange a Funeral

Pre-arranging a funeral can help alleviate additional stress when a loved one passes away – whether this involves setting out exactly what is to take place, or choosing the location for the service.
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Pre-Paid

Pre-paying for a funeral can eliminate the stress that those left behind may feel if they have to unexpectedly pay for funeral costs. Learn about our payment plans and cover these expenses early.
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Nursing Home Placement

All nursing homes will ask if a decision has been made on a funeral director at the initial placement interview. Avoid choosing the wrong one in a stressful situation and select Tony Hollands in advance.
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For compassionate help dealing with grief and loss,
call us on 07 3392 9919 day or night, seven days a week.

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